Boston Divorce Lawyer – Boston Divorce & Family Law Attorney Blog

“The more you fight, the richer it’ll make me,” is what I said to a husband and wife last week.  My client and I along with his wife and her attorney were all sitting down to negotiate a divorce in the court house.  A probation officer, who acts as a mediator of sorts, was also sitting with us.  I said this to both the husband and the wife and the probation officer was shocked.  She commented that she’s never heard an attorney say that before.  In my practice, I say that all the time to my clients and I believe attorneys who litigate should be saying it more often to their clients.

The reason that it should be said more is because often during litigation while the couple is fighting, they lose the connection between why they’re fighting and the cost-benefit of pursuing the fight.  For example, it makes no sense to fight over a piece of furniture that’s worth $500 by spending an additional $1000 in attorneys and court fees.  Both parties lose.  As counsel for our clients, we need to make sure they understand that sometimes it’s not worth it to fight and in most situations, it’s better to calmly negotiate a resolution.

A divorce lawyer who has divorce trials all the time and who fights over every little thing, quite frankly isn’t doing their job well.  The couple needs to learn how to work with each other and with the help of their divorce lawyers, forge a new way to communicate after divorce.  That is the job of a good divorce attorney.

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