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		<title>By: Andy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Andy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Aug 2010 16:35:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Lawyers are a big part of the problem and judges and the system in general that allows unscrupulous people to destroy others. Who the hell wants to get married when it&#039;s only $65 to get married but 10&#039;s of thousands of dollars to lawyers and the system when you go through divorce. It&#039;s been an absolute hell. My family would have a lot better off if the government was kept out of it because of the corrupts lawerys and judges. The end result of governments involvement. Polarization. Father put out of a job because they took everything from his check. The system can&#039;t repay the time that&#039;s been lost with my kids. The system when you really know it like I do (forced to) is against families and all it wants is money. The Federal government should stop paying states to garnish. Like one lady at the court DOR window told me, we have a quota to meet else we&#039;d lose out jobs. They garnish people without looking at the facts first.  There needs to be greater awareness of what&#039;s happening in the courts of Massachuesetts which enables the destruction of families.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Lawyers are a big part of the problem and judges and the system in general that allows unscrupulous people to destroy others. Who the hell wants to get married when it&#8217;s only $65 to get married but 10&#8242;s of thousands of dollars to lawyers and the system when you go through divorce. It&#8217;s been an absolute hell. My family would have a lot better off if the government was kept out of it because of the corrupts lawerys and judges. The end result of governments involvement. Polarization. Father put out of a job because they took everything from his check. The system can&#8217;t repay the time that&#8217;s been lost with my kids. The system when you really know it like I do (forced to) is against families and all it wants is money. The Federal government should stop paying states to garnish. Like one lady at the court DOR window told me, we have a quota to meet else we&#8217;d lose out jobs. They garnish people without looking at the facts first.  There needs to be greater awareness of what&#8217;s happening in the courts of Massachuesetts which enables the destruction of families.</p>
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		<title>By: Kelly</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kelly</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Jun 2010 18:37:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>What if the deadbeat dad is an attorney?

I am owed well over 20k in a child support judgment, and close to 10k since the last time we went in September 09, and there&#039;s more, but it&#039;s very depressing to add up what he is supposed to pay when it is simply not enforced. 

The deadbeat has not paid in years, and this is a man with an engineering degree and a law degree.

He told me he would let it lapse and work under the table, and not pay me anything, and hasn&#039;t in years. 

http://massbbo.org/bbolookup.php?sl=Mcdonough&amp;sf=barry&amp;sc=&amp;soundex=&amp;hit=1

Sure, I got a judgment for over 20k, and he was ordered to pay support yet again, but two years later (after the 20k judgment) and he isn&#039;t paying so much as a penny. 

The DOR in Massachusetts has not collected anything. 

As another poster commented, a deadbeat dad who doesn&#039;t want to pay child support won&#039;t, and there are no repercussions.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What if the deadbeat dad is an attorney?</p>
<p>I am owed well over 20k in a child support judgment, and close to 10k since the last time we went in September 09, and there&#8217;s more, but it&#8217;s very depressing to add up what he is supposed to pay when it is simply not enforced. </p>
<p>The deadbeat has not paid in years, and this is a man with an engineering degree and a law degree.</p>
<p>He told me he would let it lapse and work under the table, and not pay me anything, and hasn&#8217;t in years. </p>
<p><a href="http://massbbo.org/bbolookup.php?sl=Mcdonough&amp;sf=barry&amp;sc=&amp;soundex=&amp;hit=1" rel="nofollow">http://massbbo.org/bbolookup.php?sl=Mcdonough&amp;sf=barry&amp;sc=&amp;soundex=&amp;hit=1</a></p>
<p>Sure, I got a judgment for over 20k, and he was ordered to pay support yet again, but two years later (after the 20k judgment) and he isn&#8217;t paying so much as a penny. </p>
<p>The DOR in Massachusetts has not collected anything. </p>
<p>As another poster commented, a deadbeat dad who doesn&#8217;t want to pay child support won&#8217;t, and there are no repercussions.</p>
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		<title>By: lynn</title>
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		<dc:creator>lynn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Jun 2010 23:44:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>On July 27, 2010 the famous author John Gray will be arraigned on criminal charges at the Los Angeles Superior Court for failing to honor a court ordered wage assignment for Richard Bernstein the CEO of his company Mars Venus Coaching.

Mr. Bernstein has already been arraigned and is awaiting trial in Los Angeles. The Nevada District Attorney has also filed criminal charges against Mr. Bernstein. 

Richard Bernstein was previously convicted for failing to pay court ordered child support and was sentenced to probation and community service.  

His three children are owed well over a year in child support payments.

John Gray and Richard Bernstein sell franchises and provide training in business, family, and life coaching.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>On July 27, 2010 the famous author John Gray will be arraigned on criminal charges at the Los Angeles Superior Court for failing to honor a court ordered wage assignment for Richard Bernstein the CEO of his company Mars Venus Coaching.</p>
<p>Mr. Bernstein has already been arraigned and is awaiting trial in Los Angeles. The Nevada District Attorney has also filed criminal charges against Mr. Bernstein. </p>
<p>Richard Bernstein was previously convicted for failing to pay court ordered child support and was sentenced to probation and community service.  </p>
<p>His three children are owed well over a year in child support payments.</p>
<p>John Gray and Richard Bernstein sell franchises and provide training in business, family, and life coaching.</p>
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		<title>By: lynn</title>
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		<dc:creator>lynn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Mar 2010 05:50:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Many times it is the employer who won&#039;t garnish the wages of an employee. Below is an article alleging even the world famous author John Gray (Mars Venus) refuses to garnish his CEO&#039;s wages for child support.

(eWebWire.com) January 29, 2010 — WORLD WIDE WEB, January 29, 2010 (FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE) — Nevada ranks 54th in its rate of child support collection. They have consistently ranked near the bottom of the nation in payment collections. To say their child support enforcement system is broken is not accurate. It’s beyond abysmal. Nevada also hugged the bottom of state rankings in establishing paternity for children in support cases, obtaining court orders for support payments and running cost-effective collections and enforcement programs.

Assemblywoman Barbara Buckley, D-Las Vegas, called Nevada’s national standings for child support collection “pathetic.” Children in the state are not receiving the money they are entitled to by court order, Buckley said, which means they may be deprived of things as basic as medical care and shelter. “It is frustrating for all the custodial parents, we are worse than Guam, Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands.”
One mother has spoken out claiming that Nevada ranks so low because they only target African- Americans and Latinos. Ms Collins a single mom of three feels many of these fathers are out of work and unable to pay so any enforcement measures are useless. In her case the father of her three children is a white male, gainfully employed in an Executive Position, owns a sprawling 2 acre ranch in Las Vegas and drives a Bentley. In spite of this Ms. Collins claims that the Nevada District Attorney has made little effort to collect not only the current child support but the $22,794.12 in arrears the father of her children owes. Ms Collins further added that Nevada does not pursue white offenders and goes out of their way to keep white deadbeat dads out of jail.

Nevada has a number of tools to collect child support arrears. Bank accounts can be levied to collect past due support, wages can be garnished, property can be levied even a notice of the delinquency could be filed with the IRS who would divert any income tax refund to the DA to apply to the debt. Nevada can also suspend a driver’s license due to unpaid child support or even suspend an occupational license if a parent owes child support.
In spite of this Ms Collins claims none of these enforcement methods are used to collect child support for her children. “I have a court ordered wage assignment but it’s not worth the paper it’s written on.” The father of her three children Richard Bernstein is the CEO and President of Mars Venus Coaching. Ms Collins added that although Mr. Bernstein testified in a Los Angeles court that the company is owned by John Gray the world famous author of “Men are from Mars Women are from Venus” the DA refuses to take any action against Mr. Gray for failing to honor a court ordered wage assignment. Ms. Collins believes Nevada has done nothing because Mr. Bernstein along with Mr. Gray are both white.

Ms Collins pointed out that the Nevada DA went after Dr. Conrad Murray (Michael Jackson&#039;s personal physician) with a vengeance claiming that he’d shown a pattern of failing to abide by child support orders. At the time Dr. Murray owed just $13,311.47 for missed child support payments. Ms Collins believes if Dr. Murray was white it would be no different from the father of her children and further stated “They only pursued him because he is African American. I am owed over $22,000.00 in back child support, Mr. Bernstein was previously convicted in a Los Angeles court for failing to pay child support that definitely shows a pattern but because he is white it puts him above the law in Nevada. Ms Collins also added my children deserve better they are entitled to the same rights as everyone else regardless of the color of their skin. If their father worked for a company owned by a minority the DA would definitely pursue that company to make sure that they honored a wage assignment for child support.
Ms Collins conveyed that she provided the Nevada District Attorney with copies of press releases for Mars Venus Coaching posted all over the internet listing Mr. Bernstein’s name as being responsible for selling franchises in China, Poland, Nevada and Arizona in just six weeks. In spite of this Ms Collins said her children failed to receive a penny in court ordered child support during that period.

This may very well be the reason Nevada consistently ranks near the bottom of the nation in payment collection. Last year the state collected about 52 percent of the payments owed. The national average is about 61 percent. A Nevada state task force is looking at ways to improve the collection of delinquent child support payments after a legislative audit found deficiencies. A good start might be looking into why Nevada is not pursuing white deadbeat parents that are gainfully employed, have assets and show a pattern of failing to pay support after being convicted.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Many times it is the employer who won&#8217;t garnish the wages of an employee. Below is an article alleging even the world famous author John Gray (Mars Venus) refuses to garnish his CEO&#8217;s wages for child support.</p>
<p>(eWebWire.com) January 29, 2010 — WORLD WIDE WEB, January 29, 2010 (FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE) — Nevada ranks 54th in its rate of child support collection. They have consistently ranked near the bottom of the nation in payment collections. To say their child support enforcement system is broken is not accurate. It’s beyond abysmal. Nevada also hugged the bottom of state rankings in establishing paternity for children in support cases, obtaining court orders for support payments and running cost-effective collections and enforcement programs.</p>
<p>Assemblywoman Barbara Buckley, D-Las Vegas, called Nevada’s national standings for child support collection “pathetic.” Children in the state are not receiving the money they are entitled to by court order, Buckley said, which means they may be deprived of things as basic as medical care and shelter. “It is frustrating for all the custodial parents, we are worse than Guam, Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands.”<br />
One mother has spoken out claiming that Nevada ranks so low because they only target African- Americans and Latinos. Ms Collins a single mom of three feels many of these fathers are out of work and unable to pay so any enforcement measures are useless. In her case the father of her three children is a white male, gainfully employed in an Executive Position, owns a sprawling 2 acre ranch in Las Vegas and drives a Bentley. In spite of this Ms. Collins claims that the Nevada District Attorney has made little effort to collect not only the current child support but the $22,794.12 in arrears the father of her children owes. Ms Collins further added that Nevada does not pursue white offenders and goes out of their way to keep white deadbeat dads out of jail.</p>
<p>Nevada has a number of tools to collect child support arrears. Bank accounts can be levied to collect past due support, wages can be garnished, property can be levied even a notice of the delinquency could be filed with the IRS who would divert any income tax refund to the DA to apply to the debt. Nevada can also suspend a driver’s license due to unpaid child support or even suspend an occupational license if a parent owes child support.<br />
In spite of this Ms Collins claims none of these enforcement methods are used to collect child support for her children. “I have a court ordered wage assignment but it’s not worth the paper it’s written on.” The father of her three children Richard Bernstein is the CEO and President of Mars Venus Coaching. Ms Collins added that although Mr. Bernstein testified in a Los Angeles court that the company is owned by John Gray the world famous author of “Men are from Mars Women are from Venus” the DA refuses to take any action against Mr. Gray for failing to honor a court ordered wage assignment. Ms. Collins believes Nevada has done nothing because Mr. Bernstein along with Mr. Gray are both white.</p>
<p>Ms Collins pointed out that the Nevada DA went after Dr. Conrad Murray (Michael Jackson&#8217;s personal physician) with a vengeance claiming that he’d shown a pattern of failing to abide by child support orders. At the time Dr. Murray owed just $13,311.47 for missed child support payments. Ms Collins believes if Dr. Murray was white it would be no different from the father of her children and further stated “They only pursued him because he is African American. I am owed over $22,000.00 in back child support, Mr. Bernstein was previously convicted in a Los Angeles court for failing to pay child support that definitely shows a pattern but because he is white it puts him above the law in Nevada. Ms Collins also added my children deserve better they are entitled to the same rights as everyone else regardless of the color of their skin. If their father worked for a company owned by a minority the DA would definitely pursue that company to make sure that they honored a wage assignment for child support.<br />
Ms Collins conveyed that she provided the Nevada District Attorney with copies of press releases for Mars Venus Coaching posted all over the internet listing Mr. Bernstein’s name as being responsible for selling franchises in China, Poland, Nevada and Arizona in just six weeks. In spite of this Ms Collins said her children failed to receive a penny in court ordered child support during that period.</p>
<p>This may very well be the reason Nevada consistently ranks near the bottom of the nation in payment collection. Last year the state collected about 52 percent of the payments owed. The national average is about 61 percent. A Nevada state task force is looking at ways to improve the collection of delinquent child support payments after a legislative audit found deficiencies. A good start might be looking into why Nevada is not pursuing white deadbeat parents that are gainfully employed, have assets and show a pattern of failing to pay support after being convicted.</p>
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		<title>By: Terry Fellows</title>
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		<dc:creator>Terry Fellows</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Dec 2009 23:42:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>If you look at 2006 census data, about 80% of single house holds with kids are females.  This means the court system is VERY BIASED on giving custody.  Even if every case was done individually, it should be about, statistically 60/40.  

Now, that being said, dads are given VISITATION.  Well, that is what you give criminals.

Dads that do not pay are hounded.  In ohio, it is 30 days in jail for being 3  months behind.  It is almost automatic.  You then lost your job.  WAIT.  When you get out of jail, you got 30 days to catch up.  In PA, if you take a lesser job, your child support does not GO DOWN.  

In Ohio, child support is about 40% of the dads income, taken directly from pay checks.  

Personally, I have come to the conclusion, that if you are behind in child support, bank robbery might be an option.  Because, you are going to be poor and starving for years.  It cost $60 a day to jail you, and in Ohio, and they are closing jails.  

PERSONALLY, i suggest making the marriage work, divorce sucks, and make an effort.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you look at 2006 census data, about 80% of single house holds with kids are females.  This means the court system is VERY BIASED on giving custody.  Even if every case was done individually, it should be about, statistically 60/40.  </p>
<p>Now, that being said, dads are given VISITATION.  Well, that is what you give criminals.</p>
<p>Dads that do not pay are hounded.  In ohio, it is 30 days in jail for being 3  months behind.  It is almost automatic.  You then lost your job.  WAIT.  When you get out of jail, you got 30 days to catch up.  In PA, if you take a lesser job, your child support does not GO DOWN.  </p>
<p>In Ohio, child support is about 40% of the dads income, taken directly from pay checks.  </p>
<p>Personally, I have come to the conclusion, that if you are behind in child support, bank robbery might be an option.  Because, you are going to be poor and starving for years.  It cost $60 a day to jail you, and in Ohio, and they are closing jails.  </p>
<p>PERSONALLY, i suggest making the marriage work, divorce sucks, and make an effort.</p>
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		<title>By: Maylynda</title>
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		<dc:creator>Maylynda</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Dec 2009 01:55:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>My brother went to court with $1800 and the ex wife had a lawyer with her this time and said they wanted $3000 or nothing.  They would not let him call anyone to get more money and would not even hear him, they jailed him for 60 days. And he has to pay her lawyer expenses on top of it all.  My brother loves his girls and is not a dead beat dad, he does as much as he can for them. His ex is re-married, has a new car her husband has a new truck, they own a house and they post on Facebook that they are going out partying at least twice a week! My brother is self employed and struggling like everyone else to pay his obligations. He lives at a friends or on my couch and does the best he can. After 60 days of jail, he came home yesterday &amp; is a mess, he has no money, lost his business rental space and just wants to die. All over money, not enough money for the ex. I am a mother of 4 who did have a dead beat ex who didnt care about his kids and never paid anything, so I know what its like, but his ex is not hurting at all by what I can see and there should be some other punishment in this econmy rather than wasting time in the hell hole jail cell with murders, rapists, etc.  I want $3,000 not $1,800, give me a break!  It&#039;s all about money. My nieces were a wreck while their father was in jail and now we dont know how he is going to catch up. He only owes twelve thousand dollars. Massachusetts needs to evaluate each case &amp; give people a break. 60 days in jail, what did that accomplish?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My brother went to court with $1800 and the ex wife had a lawyer with her this time and said they wanted $3000 or nothing.  They would not let him call anyone to get more money and would not even hear him, they jailed him for 60 days. And he has to pay her lawyer expenses on top of it all.  My brother loves his girls and is not a dead beat dad, he does as much as he can for them. His ex is re-married, has a new car her husband has a new truck, they own a house and they post on Facebook that they are going out partying at least twice a week! My brother is self employed and struggling like everyone else to pay his obligations. He lives at a friends or on my couch and does the best he can. After 60 days of jail, he came home yesterday &amp; is a mess, he has no money, lost his business rental space and just wants to die. All over money, not enough money for the ex. I am a mother of 4 who did have a dead beat ex who didnt care about his kids and never paid anything, so I know what its like, but his ex is not hurting at all by what I can see and there should be some other punishment in this econmy rather than wasting time in the hell hole jail cell with murders, rapists, etc.  I want $3,000 not $1,800, give me a break!  It&#8217;s all about money. My nieces were a wreck while their father was in jail and now we dont know how he is going to catch up. He only owes twelve thousand dollars. Massachusetts needs to evaluate each case &amp; give people a break. 60 days in jail, what did that accomplish?</p>
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		<title>By: Ex wife is pathetic</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ex wife is pathetic</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Dec 2009 19:06:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>My husband is ordered to pay child support in Mass and he and I reside in NH.  His ex is a welfare and SSDI Guru and knows how to work the system.  Her 19 year old son, who is overweight, unmotivated, refuses to get a drivers license or a job and lives with mom.  She has gotten caught stealing cable from her neighbors....Now, because of this child&#039;s lack of desire is considered not emancipated, my husband is required to continue child support.  Ex has even had son go through 8 hrs of psycho eval that we paid for. At the court hearing, he was miraculously cured.  My husbad lost his job in May, and has not paid child support in some time...so we got the threat of his license revocation (the most idiotic thing a State can do).  That&#039;s right, take his license away so he cannot look for a job....He just got served today for his contempt hearing....he has tried several times to be heard by the actual judge, but keeps getting brushed off and deals with the mediator. I feel that some good men get taken for a ride in the State of Mass.  In NH, a child is automatically emancipated at 18 and unless the custodial parent brings action against the other parent, child support ceases.  I am a mother of my own two children and think NH is more in line with the times....Mass just seems to encourage young people to be lazy!!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My husband is ordered to pay child support in Mass and he and I reside in NH.  His ex is a welfare and SSDI Guru and knows how to work the system.  Her 19 year old son, who is overweight, unmotivated, refuses to get a drivers license or a job and lives with mom.  She has gotten caught stealing cable from her neighbors&#8230;.Now, because of this child&#8217;s lack of desire is considered not emancipated, my husband is required to continue child support.  Ex has even had son go through 8 hrs of psycho eval that we paid for. At the court hearing, he was miraculously cured.  My husbad lost his job in May, and has not paid child support in some time&#8230;so we got the threat of his license revocation (the most idiotic thing a State can do).  That&#8217;s right, take his license away so he cannot look for a job&#8230;.He just got served today for his contempt hearing&#8230;.he has tried several times to be heard by the actual judge, but keeps getting brushed off and deals with the mediator. I feel that some good men get taken for a ride in the State of Mass.  In NH, a child is automatically emancipated at 18 and unless the custodial parent brings action against the other parent, child support ceases.  I am a mother of my own two children and think NH is more in line with the times&#8230;.Mass just seems to encourage young people to be lazy!!!</p>
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		<title>By: SNS508</title>
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		<dc:creator>SNS508</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:23:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I have a friend who is owed about $60k in child support by her ex.  Over the years he has worked under the table almost exclusively (some of it legal some of it in &quot;sales&quot;, if you get my drift), occasionally with a small portion paid as part-time wages by his unscrupulous employer.  He has since remarried, is currently paying a mortgage, drives an expensive Harley, takes vacations, and flaunts his money in front of the kids in order to make his ex-wife look bad.  He keeps all of his possessions in the new wife&#039;s name so as to hide his income.  She was unable to work for many years thanks to two of her kids being mentally challenged.  He keeps filing for unemployment extensions and gets them, which the state garnishes.  I have to assume that this pitiful version of &quot;not&quot; avoiding his payments is the only reason that they haven&#039;t held him in contempt, taken his license, etc.  I guess my question is, is there *any* way of dragging him into the light?  The DOR has been next to useless, and one judge even LOWERED his payments when she went to court to address his lack of payment.  All he had to do was cry that he wasn&#039;t earning that much any more, show his &quot;part-time&quot; stubs, and laugh in her face as they walked out of court.  The guy is a total scumbag, to the point that she was once in a shelter with her three kids while he was helping to blow through his new wife&#039;s $1m trust fund (that&#039;s no typo), and it seems that no matter what happens he manages to avoid any penalties and keep her reliant on his whims.  It&#039;s sickening, and I&#039;m hoping to find a practical way for her to regain a little control in her life.  Any recommendations would be helpful!!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have a friend who is owed about $60k in child support by her ex.  Over the years he has worked under the table almost exclusively (some of it legal some of it in &#8220;sales&#8221;, if you get my drift), occasionally with a small portion paid as part-time wages by his unscrupulous employer.  He has since remarried, is currently paying a mortgage, drives an expensive Harley, takes vacations, and flaunts his money in front of the kids in order to make his ex-wife look bad.  He keeps all of his possessions in the new wife&#8217;s name so as to hide his income.  She was unable to work for many years thanks to two of her kids being mentally challenged.  He keeps filing for unemployment extensions and gets them, which the state garnishes.  I have to assume that this pitiful version of &#8220;not&#8221; avoiding his payments is the only reason that they haven&#8217;t held him in contempt, taken his license, etc.  I guess my question is, is there *any* way of dragging him into the light?  The DOR has been next to useless, and one judge even LOWERED his payments when she went to court to address his lack of payment.  All he had to do was cry that he wasn&#8217;t earning that much any more, show his &#8220;part-time&#8221; stubs, and laugh in her face as they walked out of court.  The guy is a total scumbag, to the point that she was once in a shelter with her three kids while he was helping to blow through his new wife&#8217;s $1m trust fund (that&#8217;s no typo), and it seems that no matter what happens he manages to avoid any penalties and keep her reliant on his whims.  It&#8217;s sickening, and I&#8217;m hoping to find a practical way for her to regain a little control in her life.  Any recommendations would be helpful!!!</p>
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		<title>By: Real Perspective</title>
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		<dc:creator>Real Perspective</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 19 Oct 2009 18:39:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&quot;they will not send you to jail during the pendency of the modification&quot;  Of course not.  They wait until the hearing, deny your modification and jail you right then.  That way they don&#039;t have to come looking for you.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;they will not send you to jail during the pendency of the modification&#8221;  Of course not.  They wait until the hearing, deny your modification and jail you right then.  That way they don&#8217;t have to come looking for you.</p>
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		<title>By: Sharon</title>
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		<dc:creator>Sharon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Sep 2009 17:15:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>My father was and still is a deadbeat Dad. He moved to FLA to avoid support payments and has or had a lein on his home from Mass DOR. I know this only because the loser had the audacity to ask me to lie to DOR for him and help him get it removed. Fat chance! But my question is, is there any way that I can find out what the status of this lien is? This news came as quite a surprise to my 1/2 siblings and they are concerned for their mother who has been taking care of this ailing deadbeat for years now. I know he never could come up with the money to pay it off on his own  because he has been collecting disabilty thru the VA for years. BTW I am 47 and my mother had been deceased for 13 years, so this should be a warning to all you people who don&#039;t want to support your kids. MA DOR can wait forever!
Thank you for your time.
SG</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My father was and still is a deadbeat Dad. He moved to FLA to avoid support payments and has or had a lein on his home from Mass DOR. I know this only because the loser had the audacity to ask me to lie to DOR for him and help him get it removed. Fat chance! But my question is, is there any way that I can find out what the status of this lien is? This news came as quite a surprise to my 1/2 siblings and they are concerned for their mother who has been taking care of this ailing deadbeat for years now. I know he never could come up with the money to pay it off on his own  because he has been collecting disabilty thru the VA for years. BTW I am 47 and my mother had been deceased for 13 years, so this should be a warning to all you people who don&#8217;t want to support your kids. MA DOR can wait forever!<br />
Thank you for your time.<br />
SG</p>
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