Comments on: Child Support and Deadbeat Dads

By: Chaney

Chaney — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 17:05:09 +0000

My observation of the entire system is that it is “after the fact”.
It’s like the credit card system. Money up front, chasing people to pay their bills in the rear. I raised my children pretty much by myself over the years. I keep my word when I sign a contract to pay what I owe. This whole scenario is really about whether your kids
grow up in poverty. The sexual revolution basically has created a liability for kids. Men and women wondering who the next sex partner will be and never stopping to look at what it is doing to the kids who come out of all this. My ex owes me 40K in back child support, but then he has two other cases. What the heck!
It appears to me that this guy does not care how these kids feel.
Why should I chase a grown man around to collect money off him
when all he does is go from one sex partner to another. I think there is a bigger problem here. It became quite obvious to me that he never learned anything in the home and that after watching his parents run around after him, perhaps the problem is not child support. I don’t think it matters who he is with, from what I can see he is like a bee who goes from one flower to another. The children that come from all these relationships are the real victims of these people’s sexual habits. Put yourself in the kids shoes for once people. Some of these kids are on public aid and see nothing but poverty, or the custodial parent is working their asses off to pay all of the support and take care of the kids too no matter who has custody. My observation of the child support system is the same as the credit card system. People abuse the credit card system every day. So here it comes people. No kid wants to go through life feeling unwanted or living in poverty gang. It’s demeaning. Nor do I want to chase a grown man around for child support, that is demeaning too. So maybe a it’s time to re-evaluate the sexual revolution. Maybe dating is okay, but sex comes with a high liability, just as much as having a mortgage on a home. Let’s just say after I seperated from my ex I stopped dating for a long time, I took a good look at my children and what divorce has done to them. Now I either don’t date, or I just have dinner with others. Why? Because I don’t want to contribute the unhappiness of others. If you have to chase a person around for child support or any other reason there is a bigger problem here. My ex has a number of cases of child support, and he runs home to MOM. What is the real problem with this guy? Child Support, I don’t think so. I am no longer going to put my life into the hands of a generation that was taught to be uncommited. Why? So I can chase people around the country? Last time I saw my ex in court after he used all the time for himself, and did not even send support or medical for the whole time our son has been alive and he wanted a Stipulation at the last minute before our son turned 18 with no documentation that he had ever been unemployed, and when I saw the way he had been taught about family life, and his roaming all over the place and having unprotected sex with other women and not even caring about the children in those relationships I began to see a different story. It’s sort of like someone expecting you to let them live in your home for free for one year without every paying rent before they will buy it. And of course no one would do that. People returning home to MOM or never leaving home from this generation way up into their 40′s and 50′s and how the “Real Children” suffer so that the parents who show a “Failure to Launch” can live at home with their parents or just roam around looking for relationships with unconditional love like they get from their parents. No more people. Needless to say I blew him off. Let the DA deal with it, and remind myself why I no longer sleep with others. I don’t like to see children go without, and all this sleeping around is causing all these children heartache gang. Men and women need to practice birth control, or just give up going from relationship to relationship looking for the “perfect relationship”. Perhaps our problems in this country is that we never learned anything about personal relationships when we were in school or being raised and that is at the root of the whole affair. I will let the DA get whatever arrears are involved here. My son is 18, the government seems to be playing MOM to everyone, and I really don’t want to see this guy again. Anyone that I have to take to court to support their children and plays these kinds of games with others is not meant to be in my home or anyone elses. And that is my observation. This guy has a “Failure to Launch” into the adult world.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 15:15:09 +0000

My husband is on probation for child support. He became behind when he was unemployed. His arrears are 3000 dollars. In August they put him on probation. He started working at a temp service in June and was converted to full time in sept. When he got converted to the company they did not start taking his child support out right away. He missed like a months worth of payment. When they did start taking it out he has paid faithfully since then. He is even out of work right now for medical reasons but we are still making the payments. He has to go to court on feb 2 for that one month lapse. Domestic Relations is pushing for jail time. Will they put him in jail for missing that one months worth of payment? We live in PA.

By: The other side

The other side — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 01:08:47 +0000

I meant stop assuming it is ONLY Dads walking out on little kids. Do assume that the MA courts do a lot of sword rattling, but the deadbeat Mom has nothing to worry about – just tell the judge she’s doing another rehab and then go off with the next new BF she’s picked-up at an AA meeting. No follow-up. And the deadbeat learns how to scam the system quickly — and does so.

By: The other side

The other side — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 01:02:35 +0000

Please! There are deadbeat moms every bit as uncaring as the “dad” bashed above… especially having money for partying (booze, drugs, etc.)

DEADBEAT PARENT. Stop assuming Dads walk out on little kids.

By: carrie

carrie — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 01:52:30 +0000

My husband has 3 children from another marriage. When he first was divorced he had a great job and their agreement was for him to pay $3000 per month. He was let go from his position and was on unemployment for over a year. We had the monthly amount lowered to a little less than half of the original. He has been unemployed for about 2 years. Our house is being foreclosed on and we are about to go live with my parents. We are behind on the child support payments as well. His ex-wife is threatening to take him to court and have them garnish my wages. I want to know if that is possible. Does Massachusetts allow this. We aren’t trying to avoid paying her, but we just don’t have the money….I don’t even have the money to pay for heating oil!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 08:04:41 +0000

My ex and I are in a battle for child support. I have 2 children and his arrears is now very close to 60k. To make matters worse his current order is only 80 per month for 2 kids. It use to be 75 per week for one but he had it lowered to the incarceration rate because he is a frequent flyer in the jail. I filed contempt charges on my own because dor was doing nothing. They put liens on thins he doesnt even have. He owns no property has no licenses or bank accounts… What kind of punishment is taking away what a person doesnt have??? I finally got him into court on the contempt charge and right before we went up to see the judge he saw another man get arrested for owing less than him and decided he wasnt going back to jail. He said he was going to the bathroom and never came back. So now there is a capias warrent issued. The local police have run his name through the system almost weekly doing warrent checks and nothing comes up because unfortunatly the capias is a civil warrent not a criminal one so now i am working with the sheriffs office to find him because unfortunatly my ex is technically homeless and doesnt have an address. He stays with friends most of the time. He works 2 under the tae jobs making more money than i do and pays nothing for his children yet he always seems to have money for cigarettes drugs and alcohol… I struggle daily to pay my bills while he seems to be living it up and partying… He even gets about 200 a month in food stamps for just himself which he sells for cash… I just dont get it

By: michelle

michelle — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 18:55:03 +0000

my ex husband has stopped paying child support he claims to have “lost his job” which in reality he works for his parents and would only get payed to cover his child support. he is CEO of one of his dads corporations, what can i do and how long is the process?

By: JD

JD — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 14:09:16 +0000

“Not to defend deadbeat dads or anything, but the bottom line is that if a dad doesn’t want to pay child support then (most of the time) he’ll get away with it.”

Well I am doing something wrong, because I was a month late once and they came after me like flies on sh**, like I had just done something horrific.

By: JeNi

JeNi — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 14:23:12 +0000

If I am receiving C/Support payments through MA DOR, what happens if I move to FL ?
Also My x owes 20k ia back support, do I take him to court in FL or MA ?

By: diana

diana — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 22:43:14 +0000

i have been divorce for five years the judge ordered my ex to pay 187.00 every week the first year in a half he refused to pay then this year he took me to court to get it reduced the judge reduced it even though he is working the same job he had when we divorced but he told the judge he is now only making 350.00 a week the judge reduced it but it pretty much stayed the sae payment 187.00 he was 27.000 behind a hhundred to the back and the rest to current last payments were 18 days apart and now he is over a week late on this payment is there anything i can do he hardly ever seesthe girls and when he does its for a half hour andhe brings them home upset and in tears