What is the hardest decision in a divorce?
May 3rd, 2011The hardest decision in a divorce is not about child custody; it’s not about the parenting schedule; it’s not even how to split up the marital property. The hardest decision in a divorce is the initial decision to get a divorce – asking yourself, do I really want a divorce?
I often speak with clients that bring up concerns about how to split custody of the children or property but the longer I speak with these clients, the more clear it becomes that they are focusing on the little details of the divorce instead of dealing with the big questions. Children and property, though they are difficult issues, can and will eventually be resolved. We have laws to do that. What cannot be answered with the law is personal decisions. Do you want to get a divorce? That question cannot be answered by the lawyer, the law or anyone else but you.
So when thinking about a divorce, don’t think about the minute details. The details will come later and is much easier to resolve once you’ve made up your mind to do something. Concentrate on the big questions.