How Children Handle Divorce
October 13th, 2009My friend Leanna Hamill shared this site on twitter: Postcards from Splitsville.
It is powerful to read though the drawings from these children that are caught in the middle of their parents’ divorce. Each child processes divorce differently but most need to be reassured that it’s not their fault, that they’re still loved by their parents, and that there’s nothing they could’ve done to prevent the divorce.
All parents who file for divorce in Massachusetts are required to attend a Parental Education Course (a topic I’ve written about in part 1 and part 2). Although these courses are long and sometimes boring to some people, they are helpful to those parents who choose to understand how their grown-up conflicts affect their children.
Remember, your children see, hear and know more than you think they do. And whatever they don’t completely understand, they fill in themselves with make-believe and it’s going to be worse than the truth. Talk to your kids and listen to them.